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17,505 hits 2.5 (2 votes) Share Favorite | Flag 7 years ago by chips2001

If someone doesn't like you, are they mean?
Assuming they haven't verbalised or acted on their dislike.


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7 yrs ago, 8 mos ago - Sunday 8/24/14 - 5:46:57 PM EST (GMT-5)
If someone doesn't like me, it's usually an indication that they're a pretty good judge of character.
7 yrs ago, 8 mos ago - Sunday 8/24/14 - 6:35:08 PM EST (GMT-5)
I think the concept that is at the very root of my faith system is that we should be kind, even loving, to those we don't like. It is what should distinguish us from those that are not of like mind. Because everyone is kind to those they like, and few without faith are kind to those they dislike.

Sadly, many people confuse love with "agreeing with my every action and whim." Which is exceedingly childish and naive.
7 yrs ago, 8 mos ago - Sunday 8/24/14 - 7:03:28 PM EST (GMT-5)
Only if they disguise it
7 yrs ago, 8 mos ago - Sunday 8/24/14 - 7:51:14 PM EST (GMT-5)
On Sunday 8/24/14 - 6:35:08 PM dacash wrote:
I think the concept that is at the very root of my faith system is that we should be kind, even loving, to those we don't like. It is what should distinguish us from those that are not of like mind. Because everyone is kind to those they like, and few without faith are kind to those they dislike.


OK, but you acknowledge that there are some people you just don't like. Regardless of your actions towards them [loving or otherwise], does not liking someone make you mean?
7 yrs ago, 8 mos ago - Sunday 8/24/14 - 8:25:39 PM EST (GMT-5)
I can dislike someone without being mean to that person. I can be polite.

Simply disliking someone is not the same as being mean.
7 yrs ago, 8 mos ago - Sunday 8/24/14 - 8:44:46 PM EST (GMT-5)
I don't think so, Chips. Its been my experience that once you get past that initial dislike and love on people a bit, you have no ill feelings at all toward them.

Dislike becomes a situation where there are some people you prefer to spend time with, and others you don't. And I can't see that as being mean so much as merely being selective in who you spend your time with. Now if you go so far as to actively avoid someone, I can see that being mean, but only in the slightest.

Let me go right at it: I'm sure many people here perceive me to be mean to IRLI. Indeed, I don't much care for discourse with him. But if I didn't think it might help him, I wouldn't say what I say to him. Don't get me wrong: I'm very capable of losing my temper with his delusions sometimes, I'm far from perfect. But most of what I do say to him is based or at least starts off with the best intentions for him.
7 yrs ago, 8 mos ago - Sunday 8/24/14 - 8:56:29 PM EST (GMT-5)
Oddly enough, I don't actually find much objectionable in what dacash has said here. I think he has his own delusions, prominently displayed here, but I think there's some sincerity in what he thinks is going on.
7 yrs ago, 8 mos ago - Sunday 8/24/14 - 9:07:36 PM EST (GMT-5)
I don't think it necessarily makes them mean. They could of course dislike me and also be mean.

Most people I dislike I just end up not spending much time around or on. Which leaves little to no opportunity to be mean to or towards them. And that's fine by me. If I don't like someone, they're generally not worth the energy of being mean to.
7 yrs ago, 8 mos ago - Monday 8/25/14 - 3:11:27 AM EST (GMT-5)
They probably just have bad taste
7 yrs ago, 8 mos ago - Monday 8/25/14 - 3:16:04 AM EST (GMT-5)
On Sunday 8/24/14 - 6:35:08 PM dacash wrote:
...and few without faith are kind to those they dislike.

That's right. Because until you've let Jesus into your heart you have no reason to love others...
7 yrs ago, 8 mos ago - Monday 8/25/14 - 10:36:01 AM EST (GMT-5)
On Sunday 8/24/14 - 6:35:08 PM dacash wrote:
...and few without faith are kind to those they dislike.
On Monday 8/25/14 - 3:16:04 AM DaveW wrote:
That's right. Because until you've let Jesus into your heart you have no reason to love others...

It's hard for some people to see any other way of doing things than the way they do it... I'd say *everyone* struggles w/ that somewhere or another, actually...

Among Christians, there are some who seem to emphasize salvation more than doing what is right. There's some intersect, of course, but the emphasis seems to be on the reward more than the process.

Where that is the case, those Christians are more likely to take a more rigid attitude toward the idea that Jesus is the *only* way and there is no good except what inherently comes from God. Those are hard sells to non-believers.
7 yrs ago, 8 mos ago - Monday 8/25/14 - 11:34:02 AM EST (GMT-5)
No, it means they're realistic.
7 yrs ago, 8 mos ago - Monday 8/25/14 - 11:50:31 AM EST (GMT-5)
On Sunday 8/24/14 - 6:35:08 PM dacash wrote:
...and few without faith are kind to those they dislike.
On Monday 8/25/14 - 3:16:04 AM DaveW wrote:
That's right. Because until you've let Jesus into your heart you have no reason to love others...

Not at all what I said. I said it is rare for non-beleivers to be loving to those they don't like. and dave, please, I've read too many of your posts to think you'd step an inch out of your way for someone you didn't like except to beat them about the head.

7 yrs ago, 8 mos ago - Monday 8/25/14 - 11:50:45 AM EST (GMT-5)
Among Christians, there are those that think you can separate doing what is right from salvation. And there are those who do both, seeing them as one and the same. Those who attempt the separation tend to try to justify wrong actions and empty theology, usually by ignoring large portions of scripture and making up their own theology to fill in void they've created. In short: their righteousness is dependent upon their own view of themselves rather than an outside authority's view of them.
7 yrs ago, 8 mos ago - Monday 8/25/14 - 11:58:22 AM EST (GMT-5)
i personally get the feeling from davew that he's a cranky bastard but actually irl he's a very decent chap and is more likely than most to help people regardless
i mean he is a nurse after all

but i could be wrong on that, what do i know
7 yrs ago, 8 mos ago - Monday 8/25/14 - 12:02:56 PM EST (GMT-5)
Pretty sure the nurse thing is a paying gig and not out of the goodness of his heart.
7 yrs ago, 8 mos ago - Monday 8/25/14 - 12:21:04 PM EST (GMT-5)
On Monday 8/25/14 - 12:02:56 PM dacash wrote:
Pretty sure the nurse thing is a paying gig and not out of the goodness of his heart.

That's right. I'll be giving up nursing as soon as I've made the final payment on my Bentley Continental.

I only nurse because I want film-star wages without the inconvenience of all those parties and girls and coke.
7 yrs ago, 8 mos ago - Monday 8/25/14 - 12:36:09 PM EST (GMT-5)
On Monday 8/25/14 - 11:58:22 AM skyfish wrote:
i personally get the feeling from davew that he's a cranky bastard but actually irl he's a very decent chap and is more likely than most to help people regardless i mean he is a nurse after all but i could be wrong on that, what do i know

Oh, I gave him the benefit of the doubt in my response to him. I don't always, but I did there.
7 yrs ago, 8 mos ago - Monday 8/25/14 - 12:38:00 PM EST (GMT-5)
On Monday 8/25/14 - 11:58:22 AM skyfish wrote:
i personally get the feeling from davew that he's a cranky bastard but actually irl he's a very decent chap and is more likely than most to help people regardless i mean he is a nurse after all but i could be wrong on that, what do i know
On Monday 8/25/14 - 12:36:09 PM IRLIteach wrote:
Oh, I gave him the benefit of the doubt in my response to him. I don't always, but I did there.

And it was noted!

Cranky is a fair assessment. I prefer curmudgeonly. But I'll live with cranky.
7 yrs ago, 8 mos ago - Monday 8/25/14 - 12:38:03 PM EST (GMT-5)
On Monday 8/25/14 - 11:50:45 AM dacash wrote:
Among Christians, there are those that think you can separate doing what is right from salvation. And there are those who do both, seeing them as one and the same. Those who attempt the separation tend to try to justify wrong actions and empty theology, usually by ignoring large portions of scripture and making up their own theology to fill in void they've created. In short: their righteousness is dependent upon their own view of themselves rather than an outside authority's view of them.

No reason for this passive-aggressive BS. I deliberately avoided assuming anything about you and didn't judge the type I described.
7 yrs ago, 8 mos ago - Monday 8/25/14 - 12:39:09 PM EST (GMT-5)
On Monday 8/25/14 - 12:02:56 PM dacash wrote:
Pretty sure the nurse thing is a paying gig and not out of the goodness of his heart.

I find many people are drawn to professions specifically b/c of the type of work, not the salary. That there is a salary doesn't sully that.
7 yrs ago, 8 mos ago - Monday 8/25/14 - 2:24:06 PM EST (GMT-5)
On Monday 8/25/14 - 12:38:03 PM IRLIteach wrote:
No reason for this passive-aggressive ...

Nothing passive about my statement. If that seemed subtle to you and you feel yourself a sharp cookie for picking out the point, I'm not particularly surprised though. Yours was at least as pointed, but you want to deny it now.

7 yrs ago, 8 mos ago - Monday 8/25/14 - 2:26:22 PM EST (GMT-5)
"I find many people are drawn to professions specifically b/c of the type of work, not the salary. That there is a salary doesn't sully that. "
That's not what I find. I find people that are generous with themselves are just as likely to go into any field. The differences I tend to see is that people that like to make a show of it or are overcompensating tend to pick fields like teaching, ministry and nursing. These are usually the ones moaning the loudest about the working conditions in such fields. The servant hearted ones tend to only talk about how much they love what they do and not about the lack of pay or other downsides of the job.

More to the point, Dave has often expressed his views about taking work that was available, pulling oneself up by one's bootstraps, etc.
7 yrs ago, 8 mos ago - Monday 8/25/14 - 2:42:54 PM EST (GMT-5)
]On Monday 8/25/14 - 2:24:06 PM dacash wrote:
Yours was at least as pointed, but you want to deny it now.

No, I used the word "seems" twice in an attempt to avoid the sharpness you went for full bore. There's no "deny it now." I consciously looked to avoid bullsh*t w/ you before I even posted it.
7 yrs ago, 8 mos ago - Monday 8/25/14 - 2:46:28 PM EST (GMT-5)
On Monday 8/25/14 - 2:26:22 PM dacash wrote:
That's not what I find. I find people that are generous with themselves are just as likely to go into any field. The differences I tend to see is that people that like to make a show of it or are overcompensating tend to pick fields like teaching, ministry and nursing.

Wow.
We're not going to find any common ground here.

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