If I could see a logical reason for signing it, I would do so. I can't imagine what logical reason that would be though.

I will never sign one of those. I think they're insulting.
Any guy who marries me would have to trust me.

Then again, I'm not trying to marry any rich men so I probably won't ever have it come up. Who knows.

Since technically I can't get married, I suppose this isn't really something I have to think about.

I see no reason not to sign it...the only people who are afraid to sign it are people who aren't sure about the relationship and plan on going somewhere.

Thieves, I should say.

I would sign it. I understand why someone would want one, and I would do the same if need be.

no I wouldn't, marriage should be based on trust. Although it might depend on their reason behind it

I would be insulted by it, to be honest. Why did we even get married if there's an inkling of doubt whether we'll stay together or not?

Offering to sign such an agreement expresses the doubts. Refusing to sign confirms them!

I think I'd have a big argument about it, which would precipitate the end.

If it ain't broke don't fix it. This would light up the warning signal for me.

On Monday 2/9/09 - 10:55:39 PM pepperdrinks wrote: Since technically I can't get married, I suppose this isn't really something I have to think about.

Technically, you CAN get married...

I can't get married to the person I love, which is the same as not being able to get married, in my eyes.

And you knew that that was what I meant.

I did.

I just find it rare that I can correct somebody for an incorrect use of a word so I had to do it...

I'd sign if the prenup wasn't my spouse's idea- - say his family forced him to. I wouldn't have a problem with that.

On Tuesday 2/10/09 - 4:38:14 PM CowDung wrote: I did. I just find it rare that I can correct somebody for an incorrect use of a word so I had to do it...

I didn't use the word incorrectly.

If it provided well for me, I'd be willing to do it.

On Tuesday 2/10/09 - 4:38:14 PM CowDung wrote: I did. I just find it rare that I can correct somebody for an incorrect use of a word so I had to do it...

On Tuesday 2/10/09 - 5:19:59 PM pepperdrinks wrote: I didn't use the word incorrectly.

Actually, yeah.

On Tuesday 2/10/09 - 4:56:21 PM talkygurl13 wrote: I'd sign if the prenup wasn't my spouse's idea- - say his family forced him to. I wouldn't have a problem with that.

It's not a prenup. It's a postnup. You're already married, then they decide they want to protect their assets from you. I'd assume my partner was splitting soon if they didn't care about a prenup but all of the sudden in the middle of our marriage they wanted some kind of financial assurance.

I don't know...I would sign it. But feel totally untrusted. Idk. We have had our chunk of land in our family for 200 years and I would probably consider getting one of those papers...

On Tuesday 2/10/09 - 8:17:49 PM Evil_Smurf wrote: Actually, yeah.

Actually, no.

If I agreed with the terms, yes. And it was what my spouse wanted and not, say, his parents' or whatever.

I would feel more secure knowing I would have a fixed asset to fall back on if we were to get divorced.

This thread is hilarious, because 50% of you who will go into your marriage thinking it is based on trust and will last forever, will end up divorced. If you don't get over yourselves and sign the damn thing, you also risk alienating your potential kids, incurring financial difficulties, and have a complete falling out with your partner.

It's not about trust, it is about the fact that life sends you lemons when you least expect it.


And pepper, you did use the word incorrectly. *can* implies lack of ability. You are *able* to marry anyone, you just *won't* or *don't want to*

On Tuesday 2/10/09 - 8:17:49 PM Evil_Smurf wrote: Actually, yeah.

On Tuesday 2/10/09 - 11:37:27 PM pepperdrinks wrote: Actually, no.

Yes you did. From a technical standpoint, you can indeed get married. From a practical standpoint, you really can't...

On Wednesday 2/11/09 - 9:12:25 AM mynameismike wrote: And pepper, you did use the word incorrectly. *can* implies lack of ability. You are *able* to marry anyone, you just *won't* or *don't want to*

Now you're wrong. She's not allowed to marry *anyone*. She's allowed to marry a man.