My grandfather molested my aunt, but I still want to find him.  My mom hasn't seen him since he divorced my grandmother when she was about two or three.  I don't know what his life is now.  He's 81.  Is it horrible to want to have a relationship with him?   Question Who's Online | Find Members | Private Messages
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If your grandfather was a child molester would you still want to find him?
My grandfather molested my aunt, but I still want to find him. My mom hasn't seen him since he divorced my grandmother when she was about two or three. I don't know what his life is now. He's 81. Is it horrible to want to have a relationship with him?


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13 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Tuesday 9/9/08 - 5:27:40 PM EST (GMT-5)
I dont think its horrible to want to have a relationship with him I mean after all he is family but I dont think that I would personaly want to find my grandfather if that happend but thats just me.
13 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Tuesday 9/9/08 - 6:02:54 PM EST (GMT-5)
I would like to see how he has reflected on that time in his life. There's always possibility for a major character change there. You learn from your mistakes. Who knows? He may be waiting for that second chance from his family. Why not give him that second chance? You may learn something beautiful that makes a significant impact on you.

Wow, that situation would make an excellent novel.
13 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Tuesday 9/9/08 - 6:46:53 PM EST (GMT-5)
I don't much care about my grandparents anyway.
13 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Tuesday 9/9/08 - 7:01:41 PM EST (GMT-5)
I personally would nver want to meet him, but I agree with snarenathan. He might have reformed over all those years, and since he is 81, he has had a lot of time to reflect on his past. The nice thing to do would be to talk to him. An old man should not die alone. That is too sad.
13 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Tuesday 9/9/08 - 8:46:48 PM EST (GMT-5)
Not really I mean if he is a child molester it would make perfect sense to not want to know him .
13 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Tuesday 9/9/08 - 8:57:35 PM EST (GMT-5)
My grandfather has been accused by three of his five daughters of molesting them and I just moved 3000 miles to help care for him and my grandmother, having never met them before.
13 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Tuesday 9/9/08 - 10:10:14 PM EST (GMT-5)
I wouldn't want to ever hear from him again. I'd like to just put him out of my mind.
13 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 9/10/08 - 10:11:56 AM EST (GMT-5)
i wouldnt ever be able to forgive someone for something like that
13 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 9/10/08 - 10:24:38 AM EST (GMT-5)
Personally I wouldn't want to meet him..but its your life so do what you must.
13 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 9/10/08 - 6:40:08 PM EST (GMT-5)
I kind of vascillate between wanting to press charges on him in my aunt's behalf and just meeting him. But I'm not sure if I can even find him. I have it narrowed down to Cost, TX or Austin, TX.
13 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 9/10/08 - 6:45:25 PM EST (GMT-5)
Yes. I could forgive them for what they did IF they felt genuine guilt for what they had done.
13 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 9/10/08 - 6:47:24 PM EST (GMT-5)
How do you know he's still alive? And no.
13 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 9/10/08 - 7:35:48 PM EST (GMT-5)
He might be dead. But I have a six sense about this kind of thing. There's a good chance that he's alive.
13 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 9/10/08 - 8:29:46 PM EST (GMT-5)
Search for him.

Once you meet him, you can decide if you want to have a relationship with him or not.
13 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 9/10/08 - 11:14:47 PM EST (GMT-5)
From afar, I'd like to see and observe him.
13 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Thursday 9/11/08 - 12:37:06 AM EST (GMT-5)
On Wednesday 9/10/08 - 8:29:46 PM Wanderer wrote:
Search for him. Once you meet him, you can decide if you want to have a relationship with him or not.

I agree
13 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Thursday 9/11/08 - 5:21:13 AM EST (GMT-5)
i would probably want to find him but I don't think i would really care for a relationship with him.
13 yrs ago, 6 mos ago - Tuesday 12/2/08 - 12:09:01 PM EST (GMT-5)
I don't think so



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