I wouldn't even start dating them in the first place.

When you're a guy... there really is no "bad" in bed.

There's average, amazing... and everything in between.

No... that can be fixed. Now if they were a prude, then I would be out of there. I hate uptight men.

nah, but i should have done, that was a wasted few months, tho sometimes they get good!

On 7/2/2007 11:57:20 PM trashycashie wrote: I wouldn't even start dating them in the first place.

Uh... so how would you know that?

On 7/3/2007 5:34:11 PM fishheads wrote: On 7/2/2007 11:57:20 PM trashycashie wrote: I wouldn't even start dating them in the first place. Uh... so how would you know that?

I'm thinking she must be basing all of her sexual encounters on bar hookups.

Bad in bed, no. You can always teach them, right?

No, they can be taught new things.

There's more important things in a relationship. Not that it's not important, but it's not the be-all and end-all.

If you really loved them surely you help them improve.

Nah.
That's something that can be improved. Where there's a will...

When I was single, there were a few women that I left for lack of sex, but I had an ex-fiancee who was lousy in bed that I didn't leave.

Yes, I've already done it once. I also dumped someone for being a bad kisser...but that was worse than being bad in bed.

If that were the only flaw, then no. But if there were other things that I found to not like, I would be more inclined to dump him/her if he/she was bad in bed...I tend to want to hang on to my good lovers even when our personalities don't click...because good sex is hard to come by!

I don't think there are people who are lousy in bed. They are selfish or incompatible.

And yes, I would leave someone (and I did) if the sex life wasn't interesting enough.

No, pratice makes perfect and all that.

Bad in bed, no, but Catholic, yes. No sex before marriage. Imagine being with someone for ages, then marrying them only to find out on the honeymoon that you're totally incompatible in the bedroom.

First I would teach them, but if I saw no hope...

My mother frequently has conversations with me about things like this.
It makes me want a big black hole to open beneath me.

It would depend.

If, for example, I had a partner who wasn't a great root but had redeeming qualities like a charming personality and an interest in 'Star Trek', then I wouldn't dump her.

If, though, I snuggled up to her in bed and said, "Do something dirty to me, baby," and she then did a big poo on my chest, I would end the relationship - that sort of bad-in-bed I don't want at all.

On 7/6/2007 4:51:03 PM Vampiric wrote: It makes me want a big black hole to open beneath me.

You have strange fantasies...

On 7/6/2007 4:51:03 PM Vampiric wrote: My mother frequently has conversations with me about things like this. It makes me want a big black hole to open beneath me.

Try a gang-bang... might open that up for you...

Well, considering I don't believe in sex before marriage, I'd say no. True, I guess you could divorce, but since you make a vow, I believe you have to stay true to your vow. For better or worse!

Yeah, I would. I am selfish and I want a man who knows what he is doing.
On another, unrelated note, I once dumped a man for being too big for me.

I guess I would try to teach him what I like. But if the chemistry isn't there, then there's not a lot you can do.

Been there, done that!