i would be so dratin pissed if i found out my husband was a woman before even after we'd been married for 50 years

Yes they should because most people would not have sex with someone who did, and those who would keep that from their partner are conniving and disgusting. Withholding that kind of information and pursuing a sexual relationship is no different than rape as far as Im concerned.

If they want the relationship to have a chance of working then yes.

If you are witholding information from a person that you know would make them reconsider having sex with you and you have sex with them anyay, that's just despicable.

okay number 1: people who get sex change operations shouldn't even be in relationships. why did they have to go through all that trouble just to date their same sex! hello? gays are becoming more and more welcomed in our society. number 2: yes. and number 3: honestly, i feel anyone in a relationship with one who has had a sex change would have some idea about it, seriously..

On 7/16/2006 9:08:24 PM awesome_ness wrote: okay number 1: people who get sex change operations shouldn't even be in relationships. why did they have to go through all that trouble just to date their same sex! hello?

A person should never have a relationship with a person of either gender just because they're a transexual? The question doesn't specify genders at all.

You're a moron.. hello?

No, they have no obligation to tell their partener what they used to be. If they want to, they can, but no-one has to know. Just like no-one has to know if say you got a boob job or botox before they met you.

On 7/16/2006 9:12:23 PM unhailey wrote: On 7/16/2006 9:08:24 PM awesome_ness wrote: okay number 1: people who get sex change operations shouldn't even be in relationships. why did they have to go through all that trouble just to date their same sex! hello? A person should never have a relationship with a person of either gender just because they're a transexual? The question doesn't specify genders at all. You're a moron.. hello?

you're right there unhailey but that's not very nice.

On 7/16/2006 9:19:56 PM Ask_Annika wrote: No, they have no obligation to tell their partener what they used to be. If they want to, they can, but no-one has to know. Just like no-one has to know if say you got a boob job or botox before they met you.

I don't think having a boob job or botox is a fair comparison to changing your gender..

Sexual partner, no.
Serious relationship, yes.

No, not unless they plan on making a lasting relationship with the person.

On 7/17/2006 1:20:09 PM abzurd wrote: Sexual partner, no. Serious relationship, yes.

Agreed.

DUH!

On 7/17/2006 1:20:09 PM abzurd wrote: Sexual partner, no. Serious relationship, yes.

Why wouldn't you tell a sexual partner?

Yes...I would want to know...

I would want to know, too.

Well, most people would end up telling their partners, but no.
It's not "used to be" - having the genitalia of a specific sex doesn't define your gender. If I had a sex change operation I would never tell anyone that I was born female-bodied, because I'd want to be considered 100% male. I *would* tell my long-term partners before we got too serious, but that's just me.

Some of these answers are sad. The only reason I'd have to tell my partner would be because I'd be afraid he would have such a bad reaction.
If you were transgendered and get surgery, you are that sex. Your gender is what you feel you are, not the sex you were born. What about transgendered people who haven't taken any steps to change their sex, but still date? Would you have to know about that before having sex with them?

I think that is creepy!!!!

On 7/16/2006 9:08:24 PM awesome_ness wrote: okay number 1: people who get sex change operations shouldn't even be in relationships. why did they have to go through all that trouble just to date their same sex! hello? gays are becoming more and more welcomed in our society.

Because they feel they are in the wrong body.

A gay person is a male who feels like a male who likes to make love with other males.

Or, a female who feels like a female who likes to make love with other females.

A transgendered person feels like a woman trapped in a male body, or a man trapped in a female body. They want the body they feel they should have been born into, and they want a *heterosexual* relationship when they are in that properly gendered new body.

Should they tell - if they are in a long-term relationship, yes. Their gender history is part of who they are, and it's difficult to hide such a large part of who you were.

For a one-night-stand - no. Neither of you is making a long term commitment, so there is no need to tell.

I think they do. How could you let the person find out from someone else?

I for one want to be told ahead of time so I can stop myself....cuz otherwise I would probably commit ritual suicide.

Yes, they should.

Hell no, what's it matter?