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1,087 hits Rate me! Share Favorite | Flag 16 years ago by Shaded

Could someone`s condolences ever be offensive?


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16 yrs ago, 7 mos ago - Friday 9/23/05 - 4:22:05 PM EST (GMT-5)
Maybe if they weren't sincere
16 yrs ago, 7 mos ago - Friday 9/23/05 - 4:27:26 PM EST (GMT-5)
"I'm sorry for your loss, but then again, I did win that wager"
16 yrs ago, 7 mos ago - Sunday 9/25/05 - 8:26:22 AM EST (GMT-5)
Yes, my mom always warned me to be careful what I said at a funeral.
16 yrs ago, 7 mos ago - Sunday 9/25/05 - 8:30:16 AM EST (GMT-5)
Yeah, if someone tried to lessen the grief, like, "At least he lived a full life," which wouldn't matter if your 86-year-old grandfather died screaming as he was ravaged by wolves.
16 yrs ago, 7 mos ago - Tuesday 9/27/05 - 1:39:20 PM EST (GMT-5)
YES! My friend was deathly ill at one time in her life, but then (thankfully) recovered. A while later, another friend of ours' lil brother died. At the wake, the grieving mother told my friend that she couldn't understand why my friend was spared her life and pulled through, while her son was taken away. Now how is that for offensive? >:O
16 yrs ago, 7 mos ago - Tuesday 9/27/05 - 1:49:18 PM EST (GMT-5)
Absolutely. My grandfather passed away 4 weeks ago and some of the things that were said to my family and I were appalling! If you don't know what to say, i guess it's better to just not say anything at all.
16 yrs ago, 7 mos ago - Tuesday 9/27/05 - 1:50:14 PM EST (GMT-5)
Oh definitely. If it isn't sincere, it's very offensive.
16 yrs ago, 7 mos ago - Tuesday 9/27/05 - 1:59:48 PM EST (GMT-5)
I must agree with cash kim on this
16 yrs ago, 7 mos ago - Friday 10/7/05 - 4:32:27 PM EST (GMT-5)
If they do it to be a butt.
16 yrs ago, 6 mos ago - Wednesday 10/19/05 - 1:44:25 PM EST (GMT-5)
"I'm really really sorry about your face..."
16 yrs ago, 6 mos ago - Saturday 11/5/05 - 7:02:33 PM EST (GMT-5)
Well, my friend's dad said to her "honey, it's not your fault you're stupid!"
16 yrs ago, 1 mos ago - Tuesday 3/28/06 - 11:55:59 PM EST (GMT-5)
"Well, it really was time for him to go."

Said of my grandfather. The look on my face scared that idiot relative away.

16 yrs ago, 1 mos ago - Tuesday 3/28/06 - 11:57:35 PM EST (GMT-5)
just when they say 'sorry'
there should be more to it
16 yrs ago, 1 mos ago - Wednesday 3/29/06 - 2:43:28 AM EST (GMT-5)
On 9/27/2005 1:39:20 PM jgp wrote:
YES! My friend was deathly ill at one time in her life, but then (thankfully) recovered. A while later, another friend of ours' lil brother died. At the wake, the grieving mother told my friend that she couldn't understand why my friend was spared her life and pulled through, while her son was taken away. Now how is that for offensive? >:O

Maybe she meant, "If you lived, why couldn't my son too?" and it came out wrong. Unfortunately, that happens.
16 yrs ago, 1 mos ago - Wednesday 3/29/06 - 3:40:11 PM EST (GMT-5)
On 3/29/2006 2:43:29 AM dragonshadoz wrote:
On 9/27/2005 1:39:20 PM jgp wrote: YES! My friend was deathly ill at one time in her life, but then (thankfully) recovered. A while later, another friend of ours' lil brother died. At the wake, the grieving mother told my friend that she couldn't understand why my friend was spared her life and pulled through, while her son was taken away. Now how is that for offensive? >:O Maybe she meant, "If you lived, why couldn't my son too?" and it came out wrong. Unfortunately, that happens.

Yeah that's what i was thinking...that could have been possible

16 yrs ago, 1 mos ago - Thursday 4/13/06 - 11:39:00 PM EST (GMT-5)
On 10/19/2005 1:44:25 PM hannah_rose wrote:
"I'm really really sorry about your face..."

HAHAHA! Thats too much!

If someone said "I'm so sorry for the loss of your husband, If you need any help, me and my wonderous living husband are here for you." It could be offensive.

16 yrs ago, 1 mos ago - Tuesday 4/18/06 - 5:36:05 PM EST (GMT-5)
Yes if it comes from someone who didn't like that person anyway... you wern't nice to them when they were alive so don't pretend to be nice now they are dead
16 yrs ago, 1 mos ago - Tuesday 4/18/06 - 5:37:27 PM EST (GMT-5)
NEVER

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16 yrs ago - Thursday 4/27/06 - 2:33:55 PM EST (GMT-5)
On 3/28/2006 11:57:35 PM iamthekellie wrote:
just when they say 'sorry' there should be more to it

Sometimes, that's all there is to say.
16 yrs ago - Thursday 4/27/06 - 2:36:05 PM EST (GMT-5)
if not delivered in the appropriate way, then yes
15 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Wednesday 5/24/06 - 9:07:24 PM EST (GMT-5)
I guess so. Never really thought about it before.
15 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Wednesday 5/24/06 - 9:17:25 PM EST (GMT-5)
Yeah, I get angry whenever people only do things for me out of sympathy, which I get a lot of. I don't like whenever people are only nice to me b/c they feel bad for me.
They make being teased a lot in school seem like it's an incurable disease.
15 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Wednesday 5/24/06 - 9:23:36 PM EST (GMT-5)
They definitely can be, if they're insensitive to the person's pain. People often say things like "At least he lived a long life", "He's in a better place now.", etc. with the idea that they're being helpful when they're actually just pouring salt on your wounds.

Another unfortunately common phrase that I absolutely despise (and thus make a point of never saying myself) is "I know how you feel."
Unless the person saying this to you has gone through a similar problem (and they usually haven't), I don't see how that phrase could sound anything but cheap and clichéd.

15 yrs ago, 11 mos ago - Wednesday 5/24/06 - 9:38:36 PM EST (GMT-5)
I hate "at least you're not *her*!" (Points to HIDEOUS girl)
15 yrs ago, 1 mos ago - Monday 3/26/07 - 10:29:46 PM EST (GMT-5)
Yes, be careful what you say.

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