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From the Journal of Spoonerism | mood: Bad

Today I went through one of the hardest things ever

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7 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 2/21/07 - 11:13:45 PM EST (GMT-5)
I don't want to get into too much detail, simply because it is gruesome and horrific and bad enough that I had to see it, but...today I found my 23 year old roommate dead. He had been dead for quite some time when we (my other roommate and I) found him.

We called 911. They instructed us to give CPR to his lifeless body until the paramedics arrived.

I am trying to cope with the loss, as well as the images burned in my mind. It was my first time seeing a dead body, and frankly, I'm most overwhelmed by the lack of dignity death brought him.

I'm very sad. And a little bit lost.

7 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 2/21/07 - 11:14:27 PM EST (GMT-5)
How did he die?
7 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 2/21/07 - 11:14:40 PM EST (GMT-5)
I suppose I should state the cause of death. Though no autopsy has been performed, the assumption is that he died from seizure-related complications.
7 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 2/21/07 - 11:15:22 PM EST (GMT-5)
aww, damn, spooner, that's terrible!! is there somewhere else you can stay for awhile? i am so sorry for your situation...
7 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 2/21/07 - 11:16:19 PM EST (GMT-5)
Aww, I'm so sorry! That's horrible.
7 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 2/21/07 - 11:16:50 PM EST (GMT-5)
Yeah, I'm currently staying with my boyfriend's mother. Probably for a little while.

I don't think my other roommate and I will really want to stay there, and we certainly cannot afford it on our own. So I may be staying here until we find a new place.

I haven't spoken with the apartment office to determine what our options are, really.

7 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 2/21/07 - 11:17:49 PM EST (GMT-5)
Man, that is terrible. I am so sorry. Do you have someone there you can talk to, or atleast be with?
7 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 2/21/07 - 11:17:54 PM EST (GMT-5)
Oh, I'm sorry Spooner.
7 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 2/21/07 - 11:17:55 PM EST (GMT-5)
i would hope that they would be understanding...
7 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 2/21/07 - 11:19:39 PM EST (GMT-5)
We waited outside our apartment for hours while the police and detectives did their crime scene investigation. They must treat it as a homicide until the medical examiner gives the cause of death.

While we waited, I had nobody to wait with me. My other roommate had a few friends and even his manager come out and wait with him. The policemen kept me company.

Though I will say, I gained respect for policemen today. I think it's easy to forget the good they do.

7 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 2/21/07 - 11:20:52 PM EST (GMT-5)
i'm so sorry. i don't have the words to really help...but i send you good thoughts...
7 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 2/21/07 - 11:21:57 PM EST (GMT-5)
On 2/21/2007 11:17:49 PM gush wrote:
Man, that is terrible. I am so sorry. Do you have someone there you can talk to, or atleast be with?

I've got my mother, my boyfriend, and my boyfriend's mother for talking to. But I really want to talk to someone about my feelings about it and about what I saw. And it's not fair to them to go into depth about those things (for the same reason I'm not going into it here). I'm probably going to seek out the counseling service offered through my job. I'm not usually one for counseling, but I'd almost rather talk to a complete stranger.

7 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 2/21/07 - 11:24:08 PM EST (GMT-5)
Thanks yall for the condolences.

I'm still coming to grips with it, you know? It hasn't quite hit me that I won't be seeing him again.

And I feel so bad for his family, losing a son so young. I can't express how bad I feel for them.

The only good I can see in this is that he lived a good life. If there is a Heaven, or some other desirable afterlife, I'm sure he's there.

Rest in peace, David. You will be missed.

7 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 2/21/07 - 11:25:49 PM EST (GMT-5)
sometimes talking to a stranger is much easier than to someone you know, even on a forum like this.
7 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 2/21/07 - 11:27:48 PM EST (GMT-5)
k8, I totally agree. I think that's part of what brings me here.

Something like this I'd rather keep for a stranger who's paid not to pass judgement, though, since so many YTers do. And all my feelings are still swimming. I could use a professional to help me sort them out.

7 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 2/21/07 - 11:29:44 PM EST (GMT-5)
i don't blame you at all. i wish i could be of more help, but you know where to find me if there is.
7 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 2/21/07 - 11:29:46 PM EST (GMT-5)
Aww man, that is horrible!

I am so sorry you had to go through that, and alone at that.
Know that we the YT community are here for you, as well as your personal YT friends, and I am sure they would take on the "burden" if it was going to help you. I know I would.

7 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 2/21/07 - 11:37:59 PM EST (GMT-5)
Thanks again to everyone for their words of support.

I don't want this to come out wrong, but I'm surprised by how much it means to me.

7 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 2/21/07 - 11:40:46 PM EST (GMT-5)
it would only be taken wrongly by people who don't understand.
7 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Wednesday 2/21/07 - 11:43:39 PM EST (GMT-5)
im so sorry.....
7 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Thursday 2/22/07 - 12:09:57 AM EST (GMT-5)

7 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Thursday 2/22/07 - 12:11:37 AM EST (GMT-5)
oh!
I'm so sorry!
I would say something comforting but I've got nothing... so I'll just post in your thread and feel like crying for you.
7 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Thursday 2/22/07 - 12:13:05 AM EST (GMT-5)
I'm so sorry.
7 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Thursday 2/22/07 - 12:33:07 AM EST (GMT-5)
That is horrible, Spoon! *hug* I know the first dead body is always the toughest. You never except it to be so... lifeless! I mean, even sleeping people have some response to your touch... a dead person is just limp... dead. It is hard to explain, but it is something that sticks with you.

And I'm only worked with dead strangers, never someone as close as a roommate! If you need to talk, just let me know.

How long was he down for? Did they call it on scene, or did they take him to the ER?

7 yrs ago, 9 mos ago - Thursday 2/22/07 - 12:35:13 AM EST (GMT-5)
I'm sorry spooner, this situation sucks ass for all parties involved and I know that is still an understatement. I hope every one finds a healthy way to cope.

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