It`s my family`s thanksgiving right now. I`m not going. Over a stupid cake. It`s my birthday in three days, and I asked for a cake. Not gifts or a big... Who's Online | Find Members | Private Messages
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Am I being a self absorbed bitch?

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1 month ago - Sunday 10/8/17 - 3:48:00 PM EST (GMT-5)
It's my family's thanksgiving right now.

I'm not going. Over a stupid cake.

It's my birthday in three days, and I asked for a cake. Not gifts or a big party or even cards, just a cake.

They said no. I said it was importantly to me, and they just...refuse.

Apparently it would make people uncomfortable because the new they'd feel bad for not getting me presents? And the original dinner was appetwntly just for my aunts immoderate family (and their sos), but like, I was invited.

My mother said I was being bratty and selfish and spoiled like last year when I wasn't upset over not getting cards, so I said 'oh yeah, I'm just a huge self absorbed bitch because I want my family to acknowledge my birthday'

And she said 'yeah you are'


So I just decided not to go. It sucks, I really wanted to see my cousin and grandma. But Idont want to feel like sh*t all night And I feel like I would.

Idk

1 month ago - Sunday 10/8/17 - 3:50:17 PM EST (GMT-5)
*was upset over not getting cards.


The f*cking girls at work wanted to buy me a cupcake from the fancy cakery next door, ffs.

I honestly can't tell if my family are being jerks or if I'm being a brat.
1 month ago - Sunday 10/8/17 - 3:51:49 PM EST (GMT-5)
That's really weird of them.

None of my family members have birthdays close to the holidays (except my new nephew will!), but if they did, I can't imagine us not having a cake/ice cream just by default.
1 month ago - Sunday 10/8/17 - 3:54:54 PM EST (GMT-5)
Right?

My aunt and mum said 'Oh, we don't care about birthdays, rhey're not important'


And I said 'it's important to ME'

And they told me to stop being stupid and get over myself
1 month ago - Sunday 10/8/17 - 3:55:39 PM EST (GMT-5)
It's really strange that they won't let you have a cake, but tbh I would have gone anyway- why punish yourself if you want to see your grandma/cousin?

I would have brought a delicious cake as well. And not let the meanies have any.
1 month ago - Sunday 10/8/17 - 3:57:56 PM EST (GMT-5)
Because someone would have brought it up to tease me about how immature and spoiled I am.

Like

'haha, look at Kate, I'm surprised she's willing to eat pie after kicking up such a fuss over not getting a cake'

And I just...I don't want that.
1 month ago - Sunday 10/8/17 - 3:58:22 PM EST (GMT-5)
I think they are being jerks.
1 month ago - Sunday 10/8/17 - 3:59:22 PM EST (GMT-5)
My mum told me that it was thanksgiving and stop making it all about myself, that I was 26 not four.


I'm sorry guys I'm honestly pretty upset.

And it just feels so DUMB
1 month ago - Sunday 10/8/17 - 4:00:10 PM EST (GMT-5)
They're being jerks. Asking for something for your birthday is fine. I hate this mentality of not asking for or expecting anything and just appreciating what you get, if you get anything.
1 month ago - Sunday 10/8/17 - 4:01:11 PM EST (GMT-5)
On Sunday 10/8/17 - 3:59:22 PM SleepyJean wrote:
My mum told me that it was thanksgiving and stop making it all about myself, that I was 26 not four.


My grandmother's birthday is close to Mother's Day every year (or sometimes on it), and we still celebrate both when we go see her for that!
She's 87, not four.
1 month ago - Sunday 10/8/17 - 4:01:23 PM EST (GMT-5)
I have a similar situation with my family and it is super sh*tty.
1 month ago - Sunday 10/8/17 - 4:01:48 PM EST (GMT-5)
You must put your-self first, it's not selfish, it's self preservation.
1 month ago - Sunday 10/8/17 - 4:10:14 PM EST (GMT-5)
Thanks guys.

If I'm gonna feel like poop at least it's good to know that I'm not being an asshole baby pitching a bitchfit.
1 month ago - Sunday 10/8/17 - 4:10:15 PM EST (GMT-5)
Families are as wierd as sh*t.

After tears of buying christmes presents for 6 brothers and sisters, their wives and husbands and children, the year I got married my sisters decided that we should only buy for the children, then after a decade of buying toys and getting nothing back, as their chilren started growing up my sisters started buying each other gifts and leaving the men out.
1 month ago - Sunday 10/8/17 - 4:14:59 PM EST (GMT-5)
I get everyone's Christmas presents every year.

I rarely get stuff back from a lot of people, but that's fine. I don't do gifts because I want gifts, I do it to show I care.

And they say 'merry christmas' and hug me and honestly that's plenty.

I think mostly I wanted cake because last year almost nobody even wished me happy birthday and the cake would have reminded them

Also, cake is delicious


But honestly being told that I COULDN'T have one hurt more than everyone forgetting.
1 month ago - Sunday 10/8/17 - 4:35:35 PM EST (GMT-5)
I think they're being jerks.
1 month ago - Sunday 10/8/17 - 5:13:30 PM EST (GMT-5)
So appetently it's not til 6.

I have cake.


Because my mom called up HER mom (my babushka) to bitch about how unreasonable I am and i don't know what Baba said but I don't think she agreed with my mum.


My mum has some story about how she didn't realise how it was literally the only time I could celebrate my birthday and had meant to do it later and hadn't thought it out.

I think there's a 50:50 shot that she's being honest and had cancer brain vs lying but whatever
1 month ago - Sunday 10/8/17 - 5:14:48 PM EST (GMT-5)
I'm just gonna assume it was the one where she legit just didn't think properly.

She's being nice again so I'm happy to just let it go.
1 month ago - Sunday 10/8/17 - 5:15:15 PM EST (GMT-5)
But I did get the cake to say 'DEAL WITH IT'
1 month ago - Sunday 10/8/17 - 5:51:52 PM EST (GMT-5)
On Sunday 10/8/17 - 3:54:54 PM SleepyJean wrote:
Right? My aunt and mum said 'Oh, we don't care about birthdays, rhey're not important' And I said 'it's important to ME' And they told me to stop being stupid and get over myself

Yeah, celebrating one's existence is so stupid... who needs that?
*roll eyes emoji*
1 month ago - Sunday 10/8/17 - 5:53:49 PM EST (GMT-5)
my parents always want to celebrate my birthday more than i do
1 month ago - Sunday 10/8/17 - 5:55:06 PM EST (GMT-5)
I love my boirthday. I even do a 30 day count down on Facebook.
If somebody's got a problem with that... I don't care. It'smy b-day
1 month ago - Sunday 10/8/17 - 6:06:18 PM EST (GMT-5)
On Sunday 10/8/17 - 5:53:49 PM skyfish wrote:
my parents always want to celebrate my birthday more than i do

Yes same. I couldn't care less...
However I will right for everyone's right to have cake when they want it
1 month ago - Sunday 10/8/17 - 6:12:06 PM EST (GMT-5)
For some reason, my old large friend group still all celebrate their birthdays as a big thing. Like, 20 or 30 people will come to a bar and bring presents and cupcakes and cake.

which is like...
-ok, cool. Nice to have get togethers and stuff
but
-c'mon. you're in your 30s or 40s now and maybe it's a little much to have yourself a big party every year?

I don't know. It's good and bad.

I think my mom would buy me a cake if I asked. In fact, I am sure she would. I guess I am the birthday grinch of my family.
1 month ago - Sunday 10/8/17 - 6:14:54 PM EST (GMT-5)
PResents for birthdays seems so unnecessary now. I should tell people to stop doing it. A dinner out with friend and family is enough.

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